Sexual Scripts is the first session in the Better Sex Workshop Series- informal, inclusive & non-judgemental sex ed workshops for adults involving facilitated group discussions, activities & games designed to challenge ideas, prompt curiosity, inspire reflection & generate discussion about sex & relationships.
WORKSHOP 1: Sexual Scripts
Sex doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Our culture, history, experiences & values all come with us into the bedroom.
This workshop invites participants to unpack ideas about what sex is, why we have it, where we learnt about it, what we learnt, the effects these lessons are having on our lives and how we might we overcome them to enjoy better- more pleasurable, more authentic, more connected- sexual experiences.
This workshop is for you if:
- you've ever had sex that felt underwhelming, boring, performative, routine, disappointing, painful or inauthentic
- you've ever felt performance-anxiety , self-consciousness, body-consciousness, shame, disgust, awkwardness, embarrassment or overwhelm in a sexual situation
- you’ve ever felt the weight of your own or someone else's expectations during sex
- you’re interested in exploring WHY we have sex, and how successfully the sex we have lives up to the reasons we’re having it
- you’re queer and feel that the sex education available to you didn’t prepare you for the reality and complexity of your emotional, psychological and physical sexual life
- you’re not queer and feel that the sex education available to you didn’t prepare you for the reality and complexity of your emotional, psychological and physical sexual life
- you’ve ever acted like you’re enjoying sex more than you actually are (faking orgasms / exaggerating sexy noises etc) and want to unpack some stuff about the performance of pleasure
- For most people, it can feel intimidating/exposing to attend something like this- that’s normal! Kudos for even considering leaving your comfort zone! Feel free to reach out in advance with any questions/concerns
We will-
- engage in discussions, activities and personal reflection
- myth-bust common misconceptions about sexual norms, anatomy, arousal, desire and pleasure
- cultivate an atmosphere that is open-minded, kind and respectful to a variety of perspectives, sexual proclivities and ideas
- have a chill zone available throughout the workshop where anyone is welcome to retreat to if they feel uncomfortable/ overwhelmed / triggered
- have a No Questions Asked policy for anyone who leaves the workshop at any point
We won’t-
- do any sexual activity of any kind (!)
- be asked or expected to share any personal information about our own sexual experiences / desires
- assume any knowledge prior to the workshop
- expect anyone to be familiar with any specific terminology
I look forward to welcoming you into this inclusive, sex-positive and non-judgemental workshop to reflect upon, discuss and challenge the sexual norms of our society. All identities welcome to this fun, interactive and trauma- informed space, facilitated by an experienced sex and relationships educator.
Do you enjoy the sex you choose to have? Does the sex you have live up to the reasons you're having it? Do you ever feel like you're following a sexual script?
Wanting some more info?
Check out testimonies from previous participants, FAQs or get in touch here with any questions/ concerns :)
Why?
Most of us were never provided any formal sex or relationships education. Instead we’ve done our best to learn about what sex & intimacy involve from the informal sex ed available; the internet, TV, films, porn, family, friends, partners, books, religious institutions, personal experience…
Few of us have graduated from this form of sex ed sexually & emotionally satisfied. Collectively, we far too often experience sex that’s formulaic, dissatisfying, dutiful, shame-ridden & performative within relationships that too frequently feel mis-attuned. Most of us are left hurt & frustrated, without much idea how to cultivate the intimate lives we want.
I've spent the last 12 years learning about sex & relationships. I developed these workshops as a way to share the most transformative bits of this learning to support others to navigate the complicated landscape of their sex lives and intimate relationships with greater self-awareness, insight, perspective and some solid strategies to maximise pleasure, intimacy and authenticity.
A note on Ticket types
Tickets are priced on a sliding scale, from £0-£45 (full price) with an additional option to subsidise low/no cost access by buying a ‘pay it forward’ ticket.
The full price ticket is significantly cheaper than similar training available, reflective of my own subsidy (offered from my position as someone who’s benefited from unearned resources & cultural capital myself) as well as my commitment to making these workshops accessible to everyone.
Please choose the ticket type that most accurately reflects your position & experience (you may not identify with every point- that’s OK!- go for whichever feels the most relatable).
I’m committed to ensuring the learning, healing, insight & great vibes these workshops generate remains accessible & inclusive, regardless of financial position. Therefore I try not to limit the number of low/no cost places.
This system is only sustainable insofar as everyone truly does opt for the ticket type that genuinely reflects their financial position. I trust you to choose honestly & am grateful for your support in making this accessibility workable.