Most of us want to have sex because we want the pleasure we hope it will provide. We want sex that feels good to us inside our unique bodies, minds & intimate relationships.
What exactly feels good is subjective and ever-changing: we get our kicks in different ways and our preferences shift & evolve at different times and in different contexts.
Despite this diversity of what feels good, the how we get to what feels good is much more universal. What brings us pleasure may be unique, but the conditions we need to access pleasure are shared.
This workshop is an inclusive and non-judgemental exploration into the shared conditions, the ‘how tos’ of ‘good’ sex: How can we identify our own pleasure? How can we overcome the obstacles that get in its way? What can we do to experience as much of it as possible?
This workshop is for you if:
- you want some reliable strategies to have more pleasurable sex with yourself and others
- you ever feel worried about how well you & your body are providing pleasure for your partner
-you ever feel bored, dissatisfied, disappointed, numb or frustrated during sex
-you ever perform sexual enjoyment for your partner- if you ever fake pleasure or orgasms or excitement because you don't want to hurt their feelings / bruise their ego / get into an uncomfortable conversation about your sex life again
- you've ever felt like your sexual body or mind isn't normal/ acceptable
-you or a partner have ever said ‘my pleasure is your pleasure’
-you have anxiety about orgasms (' I must make them come' / ‘I’m taking too long to come' / ‘I can’t come [at all / with a partner / without a toy / without fantasising/ from x type of sex]' / ‘I came too soon’ / ‘I can’t make them come' )
- For most people, it can feel intimidating/exposing to attend something like this- that’s normal! Kudos for even considering leaving your comfort zone! Feel free to reach out in advance with any questions/concerns
We will-
- engage in discussions, activities and personal reflection
- myth-bust common misconceptions about sexual norms, anatomy, arousal, desire and pleasure
- cultivate an atmosphere that is open-minded, kind and respectful to a variety of perspectives, sexual proclivities and ideas
- have a chill zone available throughout the workshop where anyone is welcome to retreat to if they feel uncomfortable/ overwhelmed / triggered
- have a No Questions Asked policy for anyone who leaves the workshop at any point
We won’t-
- do any sexual activity of any kind (!)
- be asked or expected to share any personal information about our own sexual experiences / desires
- assume any knowledge prior to the workshop
- expect anyone to be familiar with any specific terminology
I look forward to welcoming you into this inclusive, sex-positive and non-judgemental workshop. All identities welcome to this fun, interactive and trauma- informed space, facilitated by an experienced sex and relationships educator.
‘Good’ Sex is one of the Better Sex Workshops- informal, inclusive & non-judgemental sex ed workshops for adults involving facilitated group discussions, activities & games designed to challenge ideas, prompt curiosity, inspire reflection & generate discussion about sex & relationships.
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Why attend a Better Sex Workshop?
Most of us were never provided any formal sex or relationships education. Instead we’ve done our best to learn about what sex & intimacy involve from the informal sex ed available; the internet, TV, films, porn, family, friends, partners, books, religious institutions, personal experience…
Few of us have graduated from this form of sex ed sexually & emotionally satisfied. Collectively, we far too often experience sex that’s formulaic, dissatisfying, dutiful, shame-ridden & performative within relationships that too frequently feel mis-attuned. Most of us are left hurt & frustrated, without much idea how to cultivate the intimate lives we want.
I've spent the last 12 years learning about sex & relationships. I developed these workshops as a way to share the most transformative bits of this learning to support others to navigate the complicated landscape of their sex lives and intimate relationships with greater self-awareness, insight, perspective and some solid strategies to maximise pleasure, intimacy and authenticity.
- PLEASE NOTE TICKET GUIDELINES DETAILED UNDER PAY WHAT YOU CAN TICKET OPTION!!!
1 ticket= 3 hour workshop (breaks inclusive) facilitated by specialist trainer + comprehensive digital handout of further resources.
The guide is to help inform your choice of how much to pay for your ticket. Please choose an amount that's genuinely reflective of your resources & experience.
You may not identify with every point in each band- that’s OK!- choose whichever feels the most relatable. I understand individual circumstances are complex & unique- please treat this as a guide only & trust you are ~warmly~ welcome however much or little you can ~comfortably~ afford to pay.
I do my best not to limit free tickets to my workshops as am dedicated to ensuring these sessions are accessible & inclusive, regardless of financial position. The higher prices outlined are cheaper than similar workshops of this length, reflective of my own subsidy (offered from my position as someone who’s benefited from unearned resources in my life) as well as my commitment to making these workshops accessible to everyone.
This system is only workable if everyone truly does opt to pay what they genuinely can. I trust you to choose honestly & am grateful for your integrity in making this workshop accessible to everyone, no matter their budget.
I trust you to choose honestly. You will not be asked any questions about your choice.